The SCGA recently held its first Parent/Junior Championship at Marbella Country Club in San Juan Capistrano, which is not only our first SCGA junior tournament in recent years, but the first family event we’ve held as well.
I have been fortunate in my time at the SCGA to be privy to many tournaments and have been around many wonderful players (both personality- and talent-wise), but this particular tournament was different: with young players (both male and female) ranging from age 7 to 17, teaming up with their fathers, grandfathers and step-fathers in the modified foursomes format, it was perhaps one of the most inspirational and refreshing tournaments I have been exposed to.
In a nutshell, this tournament reflected the true spirit of the game of golf. Let me explain.
In general, most golf tournaments you go to these days or see on TV, both professional and amateur, feature someone (or a few people) who dampen the mood of the day by complaining about whatever it was affecting their round: “the greens were awful,” “the rough was dangerously thick,” and “that hole placement was unfair” are pretty much the standard lines no matter the level of golf being played (I won’t argue with validity of these statements, although they’re frequently said out of frustration). The term “sandbagger,” used both in jest and seriousness, is a popular one whether in a leisurely game or competitive match, as is, “that person shouldn’t be out here,” or “they aren’t good enough to be in the field.” They sink a putt for par and aren’t happy, or hit a drive offline and slam their club into the ground. Relaxing to watch, similar to a ticking time bomb.
This tournament was different, though. Most, if not all, of these talented kids are not jaded by competition (yet). To see the genuine excitement on the faces and in the voices of the players, both kids and parents, after making a long putt or hitting a great approach shot onto the green was, for lack of a better phrase, REALLY fun. The praise, high-fiving, pats on the back and motivation out there was nice. Although there were two flights, different ages of players were playing together. Many players could not stop talking about what a beautiful course it was and how much they enjoyed playing it. When 12-year-old Frank Cuccia, Jr. scored his first ace ever on the 117-yard 11th hole with his 5-iron, he was beaming the entire day. When 7-year-old Blake Keesey, the youngest and perhaps most talked-about player in the tournament (see the next issue of FORE), came to the scoring area with his father, Victor, and saw the table of silver winners’ plates, he gasped and said, “Wow, those plates are so beautiful.”
When he and his father ended up winning the Vice President Flight of the championship and Blake raised the oversized champions’ plate over his head, the entire field roared with applause and chanted his name.
All and all, it was good, clean golf fun.
This “true spirit” of the game may be different things to different people. To me, however, it’s about appreciation of the sport, enjoyment of the surroundings, camaraderie with both your playing partner and the players in the group, maybe even feeling some sort of pride or satisfaction in an aspect of your game, like a great shot (no matter how dire the round as a whole may have been). Does the true spirit embody competition? Of course it does. That doesn’t mean players have to be excited if they lose — disappointment’s a natural feeling, but is true negativity necessary? No. It doesn’t hurt anyone to be a little happy for the person that wins.
I overheard one of our SCGA committeemen volunteers ask a father if he enjoyed the day. The father smiled, nodded his head, and said something that we should all think about:
“I signed my son and I up for this tournament to spend time with him,” he said. “I work so much and thought this would be a great chance for us to take some time out of our day to be together. I need to do it with all my kids. It was so much more than golf, and we’ll sign up next year because of it.”
Next time you go out to play, think about what golf really is to you, beyond winning. Above anything else, it’s a great opportunity to spend a few hours of quality time with someone you care about and appreciate the activity, which, in the grand scheme of things, is really what’s important.