I was recently on a business golf outing with an East Coast colleague at Saddle Creek Resort in Copperopolis, a 6,800-yard Carter Morrish design two hours southeast of Sacramento. With a course starter named Mac McCool (greatest name ever and the topic of a whole other blog) and a restaurant menu to die for, read in a future issue of FORE Magazine more about this stunning layout in Northern California’s copper country and how the first stage of Copperopolis Town Square is nearly complete, as purveyors Castle & Cooke are building a new “country town” from the ground up.
However, I digress.
While riding around the course, my playing partner Scott began telling me a rather entertaining story about a group of guys he plays golf with in Texas each year. Every time they go out, he tells me, they try to choose one phrase — lacking any directness or substance — that can be used to respond to any comment or rhetorical question thrown their way. Among these phrases, “Ain’t that the truth,” “You got that right,” the Scottish-influenced “Aye,” and my Los Angeles contribution, “No doubt,” had all been successfully used in the past, and, as shocking as it was to hear for a person like me in the communications industry, they worked.
A little skeptical, I asked to see this social experiment first hand, to which Scott obliged. For his victim, he chose another sports writer on the trip who not only immensely enjoyed talking to, instructing and critiquing everyone’s games that were on the trip, but enjoyed talking to himself as well. Scott went to work.
“Hey Scott, what a day out here, huh?”
“You got that right.”
“Wow, did you see that? Heck of a shot.”
[Insert chuckle] “You got that right.”
“Wow, I didn’t even see that break in the green, the ball just hi-tailed it left.”
“Hmmm, you got that right.”
I shook my head in disbelief (and immense amusement) at this spectacle and began to think of the things I say to people on the golf course…could this tactic really be used on me as well?
Scott and I recapped. “I can’t believe this,” I told him. “I’m amazed it worked. What happens if someone asks you what you do for a living or where you’re from? Something specific you have to answer?”
He smiled. “Think back on all of the times you’ve played with a group of people you don’t know. Direct questions may come up within the first five, maybe 10 minutes that you meet the people and possibly before you tee off. After that, though, you are, for the most part, done.”
In remembering my own experiences, the interesting thing was that he was right. My curious tendencies teamed with my aversion to awkward silences in a golf cart lead me to chit-chat and ask people a lot of specific questions requiring more than a yes or no answer. People are interesting to me; you never know who you might meet. But aside from the occasional remark asking me if I was the next Annika and telling me I need to tee off from the back with the boys, I could count the number of times people asked me specific a question during a round on two hands. And I realized that not only was I okay with that, I always had been.
As one of the staples of the game of golf, camaraderie can come in many different forms; it doesn’t always mean that a full-fledged, eye-opening conversation needs to occur. For many it’s about the company of another or watching the way someone else plays the game. For others, it’s a change of scenery at a new golf course with a new person. If you like running commentary, a good laugh, and want to feel better about your game by watching mine, I’m your gal.
Like Scott told me, think back on the times you’ve golfed with a new person and you’ll be surprised at how little you may have verbally communicated but how much of an enjoyable time (hopefully) you had. Whatever your camaraderie goal is, have a good time out there, because really, if you’re not, there’s no point in playing the game.